I've been on the mats 3/4 of my life and have learn tremendous amount of life skills on the mats. The mats (especially in BJJ) teaches us that nothing comes easy and every bit of it is earned through hard work just as in the real life. But just as in the "real" world we all need nurturing and guidance on the mat. As an instructor or high rank student of the academy one may tend to give more attention and guidance to the newer students that are more "physically gifted" and can understand the techniques and the concepts better but what happens to the everyday Joe and Jane that is also on the mats? a lot of times they get over looked and little guidance is given to them. I don't know about you but the "physically gifted" students will find a way to keep up with the class while the average Joe and Jane may not. Just as a child growing up into pre teen, teen and eventually adulthood we need to be there to guide them into positive direction. There is no difference on the mat, all upper rank students and instructors should pay more attention and guide the everyday folks who are there to better themselves through Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Remember, we are all in this together and if your teammates are improving, YOU are improving.